Idk if this is one, but when people say things like “I can say and do whatever I want” “it’s a free country. Ever hear of freedom of speech?” in order to justify s****y things they say or do. Like sure, you have the right to speak your mind, but people also have the right to judge you for what you say.

It was just a joke. Where's your sense of humor?

Don't be so sensitive (or something to that effect). Big warning sign that they A- don't care about your feelings, and B- can't take responsibility for their behaviour

“I’m brutally honest” or some other excuse to be an unbearable person.

“Ok fine I’m sorry happy?” That’s not an apology.

Anything that exposes poor morals. For example, "I'll just say I never got it so they send me another one." When people show you who they really are, believe them. Love this quote.

If they wronged you and say something like, "I'm such a terrible person, you should leave me." It's them trying to force sympathy on them instead of genuinely apologizing to you. They're not going to change if you stay.

“Yeah, but YOU don’t act black.” The f**k?

I’m a guy but anytime I hear other guys say “friend zone” or “girls only date a**holes” or anything that sounds incel/misogynistic, I’m not going to be too fond of the person

“I try to be more like my kids’ friend than their mom.”

I used to go to the bar after work with coworkers. One of the managers didn't go, but a coworker kept encouraging him to come out and party. He relented and said he'd come out for one drink. At the bar, he took a sip and said "ah, I haven't had a beer in 5 months". No one else took notice of that, but it struck me. He was gone a week later after coming into work drunk and doing something inappropriate. To anyone reading this: If someone doesn't want to drink, accept no for an answer. They might have a very good reason to say no, and pressing them on it, especially when well intentioned, might make it much harder for them to say no.

Treating service staff poorly, then turning around and being disingenuous.

I personally move away from people who constantly one up someone's story or experience

Non-apologies. “I’m sorry you got offended by what I said.”

I'm not racist but

When people talk s**t on their spouses. Like even in the most subtle way it’s still not appropriate small talk. If it’s my best friend and she’s telling me about a hardship or a fight, different. But when I’m meeting you for the first time I shouldn’t be able to pick up that you dislike your spouse/SO.

When they disagree with someone, they default to attacking the person's character instead of their actions. We all do this from time to time, but with some people it's every time. The guy who messed up their order is "an idiot". Their boss is "an evil sociopath". The person on Facebook who expressed a political view that opposes theirs is "a degenerate". That new intern at work is "hopeless". In the end, the final result is that anyone they disagree with for any reason is either an inherently bad person who doesn't really merit listening to.

"Sorry I did this and that, It's just my inner zodiac sign." Like, your zodiac sign doesn't define you, you're just being a s****y person and using that phrase as a cover up.

“I’m a nice guy” …. Sure you are. Why you gotta justify to me just show it.

When they are the victim in all of their stories. I had a colleague who didn't really have any friends outside of work. All of her stories were about how each of her friends had stabbed her in the back at one time or another. She went travelling to Australia with 6 girls and left early because they didn't want to do the things she wanted. It was glaringly obvious that she was the issue but still tried to play the sweet victim. There is another girl from my high school who has gained quite a few followers on social media through sharing her stories of being bullied in school for being bald. No one can remember that ever happening, she was quite popular but had lost touch with her group as you do when you move away for college. Also, she was never bald. Red flags when people enjoy pity.

Positive vibes only!

Making rude comments about homeless ppl and being rude to waitstaff

If you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best.

“I just tell it like it is…” Is a red flag for me personally.

“I’m not (blank) but...(insert statement that affirms they are what they’re claiming not to be)

If they compliment themselves often but rarely or never others, for me that's an obvious narcissistic trait.

Maybe this is nitpicky but people who give nicknames or use a shortened version of your name without asking if you mind it. It's annoyed me my whole life and always seems to correlate with them not respecting more serious boundaries later on.

But you're so good at it. Aka I'll compliment you in the hope that you'll take this task off my hands.

my s/o wont let me do so & so

When they try to fish compliments. For example they say: ‘why am I so ugly?’

Pretty much anytime somebody says something about themself when it's not prompted or necessary. Like "I'm an honest person", "I'm a hard worker", or "I'd never hit a woman".

Asking what music you listen to, then immediately critiquing it, especially when you like main stream stuff. (I guess this applies to stuff other than music but that’s what annoys me the most)

“I’m an empath” makes me want to get in my car and drive ten hours in the opposite direction while shoving wool in my ears. My last roommate called herself an empath. Turned out to be a 30 year old emotionally abusive a** who let her dog s**t in our apartment. Empath my a**

Starting an argument for no reason and then not having the capacity to resolve it.

When someone says "they're my karma child" and implies their child makes their life so hard it must be payback for a mistake they made in the past. I usually discover this person has intense mental health or substance use history. It's a s****y way of mentioning their disdain for their kid.

“That’s just the way God made me,” as an excuse for being a b***h or d**k. Like it’s just their personally and they can’t help it so we should all just accept it.

When I started my new job the bubbliest girl who was loved by most of the staff and was also a HR manager would act like this when me and her were totally alone. She would whisper ever so softly (to herself but to me) "you get no thanks around here, no one cares. You just wait and watch the knives stabbing when you least expect it". This is something she did on my first DAY!! I said to her everyone seems lovely and accepting and she said "well wait until you get to know them". This was a HR MANAGER!! Edit I've just realised this isn't very subtle Also Edit! Seems like alot of people see this girls actions as good. I don't, this was my first day and I really believe if people start talking about others they're setting the tone for YOU to perceive the person they are gossiping about, it made me nervous, your first day is bad enough. I was there for 7 months and not one person showed any signs of being a backstabber. Not one! Nothing even remotely shady.

Recently had someone tell me "I hate being accused of lying." I'm sure we can all guess what he keeps getting caught doing...

"With all due respect." I know a guy who says this so frequently that when he says it, I brace myself for the s**t to follow.

You'll know I like you when I make fun of every single thing you do maliciously. Like wth

Never asking a question. My husband realized his father never does this and now I can’t stop listening for this.